We all have been told (or at least I hope we’ve been told) since we were kids that what’s on the outside of our bodies is not the most important thing. Whether we’re pretty or handsome doesn’t make us good or more worthy than the next person, after all.

That said, when you’re in a relationship – especially a new one – it can be tempting to compare yourself in this way to the people your partner has been with in the past.

Here’s how these 11 people are coping with the idea that they’re no as attractive as their partner’s ex(es).

11. Maybe that’s just not his thing.

You could talk to him about it. Just a thought.

10. It can only hurt if you let it.

Of course, that’s easier said than remembered.

9. He’s with you now!

The fact that she’s pretty is irrelevant.

8. That’s a matter of opinion.

Maybe she’s really mean, though.

7. It’s the last part that’s worrisome.

That’s the reason to be concerned!

6. They’re exes for a reason.

You just have to keep telling yourself that.

5. That seems like a you problem.

Work on your own happiness and forget her!

4. It’s pretty petty.

It’s probably normal to think about it from time to time, though.

3. Feel happy that he’s with you!

Seriously, just try it.

2. That’s really all that matters.

Someone’s face is just their face.

1. This sounds like something that needs to be reined in.

If you want to keep him and stay out of jail, I mean.

I mean, I’m sure it’s just subjective, and they broke up with them for a reason, right?

Have you found yourself in a similar situation? Tell us in the comments how you managed it!