Attraction is a fickle thing, and it changes from person to person.

But sometimes you can find yourself scratching your head and saying “Does everybody else REALLY like this?”

What is something a lot of people find attractive that is actually a turn off for you?
by inAskReddit

See if you can identify with disliking any of these apparently popular “hot” things, as described by Reddit.

1. Lap dances

One or two past girlfriends took it upon themselves to give me a lap dance, and it just feels silly and awkward being on the receiving end.

– Llama_Mia

2. Machismo

I do not want you to get mad in my defense over little things. I also do not want to see you punch a wall in your rage. I will actually end up worrying that you are going to pick a dumb fight or break something over a stupid thing. Your rage makes me nervous even if it’s not directed at me. It’s not a turn on.

Like sure, if someone is actually trying to hurt me or creep on me, I don’t mind a guy stepping in to help. But it should be a last resort. I much prefer a man who wants to just leave or de-escalate a situation as calmly as possible.

– lillyrose2489

3. Possessiveness

“Talk to my woman/man, you’ll have me to mess with” is so unattractive me-

feels like the person sees their partner as an object in their life that they need to defend, not a full a** human who they can trust.

– bobagret

4. Playing dumb

Girls who act stupid in order to be perceived as damsels in distress.

It’s very unattractive to me especially if I know the girl is smart and competent to take care of herself.

– Vladimir909

5. Toxic positivity

that’s a HARD NO from me – there’s clearly something wrong with you if you don’t know how to have a full range of emotions.

Especially in today’s dystopian nightmare.

– theborderlineartist

6. The “perfect” eyebrows

Yea I get no one likes a monobrow even on guys but a girl I know looks like she’s 2 Nike logos and it’s all I can see.

I’m bad for not looking people in the eye but with her I must look real attentive

– SnooCapers9313

7. A big d**k

It’s intimidating and all I can think is “ow.”

Anything over 6 inches length wise and like a teenager’s hitchhiking thumb size width wise ?is too big for me personally. 4-6 length is perfect. Even under that is fine as long as it has the agility of a ravenous snake.

– sheepsclothingiswool

8. The anime voice

Idfk when this became a thing, but in the past few years, a lot of these chicks moan in a high pitched “”anime”” voice that sounds nothing Close to their actual voice. It’s not cute, it’s f**king cringe. Stop it.

Stop exaggerating it, too. If you moan & like it, that’s cool. But don’t make it apparently obvious that you’re just screaming “OOOHHH F**K~ YEAHH~ Harder~~” like you think it’s actually sexy… it’s not.

– -BadDecisions

9. Fake tans

it’s foul, s**t stains around the wrists, neck and fingers.

It’s awful to spend so much time showering and getting ready to look dirty by the end.

Don’t get me wrong, all skin tones are beautiful but fake tan make people who wear it look like they’ve messed the bed.

– chillypyo

10. “Daddy”

I have “World’s Greatest Daddy” on a travel mug, along with my 3 kids’ names.

A coworker said that seemed weird….I told him “if the term ‘daddy’ has sexual associations for you, the problem is in YOUR head.”

– ZoDeFoo

11. Smiling big

Smiling with full teeth showing..

It’s weird to me that many people have such an emphasis on them being perfectly white and straight too while I just find it really creepy and unnatural looking like an uncanny valley feeling.

– PremiumDouche

12. Buttholes

I can’t tell you how many people I’ve met that say they like buttholes but cannot explain why.

If there’s a chick showing her goods on reddit, and she spreads the cheeks to show that butthole, I keep scrolling.

Meanwhile if a girl simply shows her t**s, the comments are filled with people asking to see her butthole. I will never get it.

– DorrajD

13. Cosmetic surgeries

People get pissy when I suggest Paul Rudd has had work done.

Guy has had more botox, chemical peels and treatments than can be counted to stay looking like he does. He just has is done well, done in small increments so no sudden changes and done often so he stays looking fresh.

I would suggest at a a high enough disposable income point and up it would be hard to find a man or woman who hasn’t had some work done, even if it’s just an injectable, something to make their hair grow, eyebrows shaped.

I think most people below that income point don’t understand just what is available.

– wwaxwork

14. The acoustic guitar bro

Reminds me of this time that I was at a guy friend’s house and he put this Dave Matthew’s song Say Goodbye on repeat.

After the tenth time hearing “tomorrow go back to being friends…but tonight let’s be lovers…tangled tongues and lips…” it was enough to permanently ruin that song for me. ???

I should have run away screaming then, but that was the last time we hung out.

– SweaterSwater

15. Big brand names on everything

I never understood why people kill for those louis vuitton handbags.

It’s a d**n piece of brown leather with the same logo just slapped around it and they look horrible.

– LordJambrek

One person’s turn on is another person’s deal breaker. Who’d have thought?

What’s a big turn off for you?

Tell us in the comments.