Physical attraction is such a strong and hard-wired instinct for most of us that it can be genuinely difficult to override.

But one thing that’ll do it pretty much straight away is if someone shows themselves to be ugly on the inside, like Reddit user Antoinewhite was getting at:

What turns an attractive person ugly?
byu/Antoinewhite inAskReddit

There’s plenty of ugly to go around. Let’s find out what folks had to contribute.

1. Haughty.

Having a sh**ty arrogant attitude

– scarymovie77

2. Do unto others.

How they treat others.

– PlasticineRobot

3. Where ya at?

I’m surprised I haven’t seen this said already, but being unreliable.

Like when they say “Oh we should totally [go to this place, do this thing, watch this movie, play this game, etc]!” and then either never follow through on the plan, cancel at the last minute, or meet up with you and change what you’re doing.

– firemoo

4. Don’t use.

I’ve seen beautiful, affluent, A-game women scream at their kids to get the perfect Instagram pics.

Using your offspring as props and turning what should be their best memories into sad photo ops to farm out likes…huge turn off.

– downvotethiscommnt

5. Bugging me.

Littering, of course.

– SugarJuicex

6. Pass the buck.

Not accepting responsibility

– AlexanderjLee

7. That’s not teamwork.

Them having to be the leader or center of attention in order to be cooperative.

So annoying.

– SilverDogee

8. Clean up.

Bad hygiene… bad breath,no deodorant,dirt under nails etc

– katrinavenkat

9. Self-reflection.

Narcissism is the worst. It’s like eating an apple that looks delicious but is devoid of flavour.

There is no substance.

It’s hands down the worst trait I have come across that makes an attractive person ugly and unfortunately, a fair amount of “attractive” people suffer from this and I’m not sure what the cure is. It seems deeply engrained and can be hard to spot at first glance.

– -Entz-

10. Think it through.

Being a complete moron

– labelfish

11. For goodness sake.

Virtue signalling.

Yano the type, film themselves feeding a homeless dude or giving him 20 quid to show “what a good person they are” or bragging on social media about all the good they do in the world.

It’s those self same people who say that starving kids are their parents problem right up until it’s on trend to help um.

It doesn’t make you good or even look good, it makes you a narcissistic attention seeking c**t ?

– DeadPoet1006

12. Cough it up.


– pramitus

13. Gone fishin’.

Fishing for compliments they know are true. Usually accompanied with a giggle.

“Oh my god I am soooooo bad at singing.”

“That platinum record would suggest otherwise.”

– bighead914

14. Literally literally?

Frequent and inappropriate use of the word literally.

– Anom8675309

15. It’s in the stars.

Blaming their sh**ty personality on their Zodiac sign

– uspaccafregna

16. P-U.

their smell

– WaterSpell

17. Give a little.


– OutsideRich

18. Not so common.

lack of common sense and humanity.

– jhinleon

19. Hotty or haughty?

Arrogance is definitely a huge turn off.

– sea8cloud8

20. It’s very revealing.

Being an **shole to waiters, janitors, and the like.

Or just being an **shole and having a s**t attitude about everything.

– CitizenHuman

21. Like and subscribe.

Social media obsession

– NuclearWinterGames

22. Manipulation.

Twisting a situation that they caused, so it’s more favorable for them.

– gliitch0xFF

23. Anybody home?

Personality of a wet mop

– alleycatt_101

24. “One of the boys.”

When I was 15, my cousins best friend was the cutest boy I had ever met… Until I got to know him. He was cocky and talked down to any girl that he didn’t deem beautiful enough to put his charm on. He was never really mean to me because I was “one of the boys” but that just let me see what he was truly like towards girls in general.

He quickly became the ugliest person I knew. In turn, one of the “funny looking” kids in my class quickly became my crush because he was just so nice!

His inner beauty outshined his big ears and crooked nose before the first week of school was over.

So yeah, personality is a game changer

– saymynamebastien

25. Learn something.

Ignorance. I hate people that don’t know anything and choose to not learn anything new.

People who think they’re better than others, who choose to not learn about cultures or people’s identities, it just makes me mad.

I can see no beauty in a closed off brain.

– JustAPlane22

26. Shut it.

Chewing with their mouth open

– BigIreland

27. Stuck in the old.

Not being willing to try new things. Went on one date with a guy who listed the 4 or 5 foods he eats then got mad that the Italian restaurant didn’t have any of them (I forget what they were but they were child foods like chicken fingers or something).

He then yelled at the waiter that he only eats “real american food”. Strike 2, treating people like s**t. Strike 3, perception of American exceptionalism. I chugged my wine, paid, and left. 5 minute date.

While I was chugging, he asked if I could pop his back pimples. I almost puked on the table

– AhFFSImTooOldForThis

28. You’re not all that.

Really don’t want to sound like a douche, but for me it’s someone that are snobby, dumb or indecisive.

I don’t mean uneducated, I mean dumb.

Plain dumb.

– CupidXII

29. Calm down.

treating you like you’re lucky to be with them

– Brother_Bishop

30. Got anything else?

When being attractive is their only personality trait

– Black__Mesa

Truer words were never spoken.

What else would you add to this list?

Tell us in the comments.