Men and women have differences, no doubt about it. And if you’ve ever been in a relationship with a member of the opposite sex, you know that communication issues tend to pop up from time to time…or maybe more often depending on who you are…
Bottom line: a lot of men out there think certain things are hard to explain to women.
AskReddit users opened up about this subject.
1. Not ready…yet.
“Sometimes I’m not in an emotional or mental state to be ready for the bedroom. I need romance to get me there sometimes too.”
2. I don’t remember.
“When you ask me how my day was or what I did today, nothing in my day usually stands out as special, so I just dont remember. I usually dont remember what I do, I just live.”
3. Just make a decision.
“Its ok to just tell me where you want to eat.”
4. Not checking you out.
“I’m seriously not checking you out every time you walk by in the office.
I turn my head for damn near everything that enters my periphery, you’re really not that special.”
5. An important concept…
“The concept of post nut clarity, and the related power your boner has over you.
Men, am I alone in knowing that you don’t/shouldn’t text any woman if you’re horny/jerking off?”
6. Time and space.
“When we say we need time or space, that’s exactly what we need. It’s not code for “you need to try harder”.”
7. It’s complicated.
“Sometimes I’m just horny, but (in a committed relationship) sometimes I look at you and I’m just so in love that I want to be as close and intimate with you as I can, which is sex. My ex and I had different love languages, and she would worry that I don’t love her as much as she loves me which was just crazy because I was head over heels for her at all times.
Trying to explain that that really close, lovey s^x was one of the ways I showed her exactly how deeply I was in love with her, but she didn’t get it.”
8. Don’t want to feel like a creep.
“I don’t always want to be the one that initiates sex. It makes me feel like a creep.”
9. The nod code.
“The specifics of nod code. It’s easy to say “up if you know them; down if you don’t” but the exact meaning of the downward nod is hard to translate. It’s seeing them, acknowledging them, and saying that neither of us have any issue with each other.”
10. Compliments are nice.
“How much compliments mean to us. It’s a different type of happy when a guy gets complimented.”
11. The struggle.
“Sometimes (this is me personally so I can’t say it’s common) the struggle not to share emotions isn’t as much the worry of backlash from society or friends, etc. It’s more just a conflict within ourselves to verbalize and come out with it. I trust my friends with respecting how I feel, I just can’t get it out because I’m fighting myself.”
12. The love is real.
“I think it is hard to explain to my wife how much I love her and the kids. I feel like words are not enough and I work a lot but I wish my feelings could just be transferred so she understands…”
13. It’s okay to be quiet.
“That just because I’m quiet in your presence doesnt mean I’m upset. Just means I’m either tired, dont have anything to say, or I’m thinking about something.”
14. No hidden meanings.
“Very often, we say something at its face value with no double meaning, or alternative meaning, behind it.
It’s women who ask me, “What did you mean when you asked/said that?”
I said/asked exactly what I meant. If wanted to state it differently, I would have done so.”
15. Has nothing to do with you.
“That sometimes we need personal space and it has nothing to do with our opinion of you.”
Some pretty interesting perspectives in those answers, I think.
What about you?
Do you agree with these men?
Let us know in the comments, please.