Meet Heather Boyer of Houston, Mississippi.
Her daughter recently updated her profile picture, and it featured her and her new boyfriend, who happens to be African American.
Soon enough, Heather received a text message from a “friend” who asked if she knew she was “dating a black boy.”
Needless to say, this fired Heather up, and so she wrote about her feelings in a Facebook post.
Today my daughter changed her profile picture. After maybe 5 minutes I get a text ..” I didn’t know she was dating a black boy, did you?”
It took me all day to think up a response, which I didn’t send personally but thought I would share for anyone else that “may not know”
Yes in fact I did know, but the color of his skin doesn’t define who he is. What does define who is he is how he treats my daughter.
I see my daughter dating a boy that comes to my house and shows me nothing but respect (a big deal in my book). It’s always Yes Ma’am, No Ma’am, we talk about football and baseball, he tells me bye when he leaves, and has not once shown me a lack of manners or respect.
I see my daughter dating a boy who treats her good. He takes her on dates, to ballgames, out to eat..not to a club or partying on the weekends.
I see my daughter dating a boy who takes her to church with him. Every Sunday. He plays in the band, she sits with his family. How many young men these days make church a priority? None of the others have.
He doesn’t hit her, cuss her, lie to her, or make her cry. Would I rather her date a white boy that did, to keep from her dating another race? Absolutely not.
So that’s my response to the question I was asked. And I know people have their own opinion, but at the end of the day, the fact that my daughter has someone that loves her and treats her like a queen makes me happy. That’s something I’ve never had in my life and I’m glad she does.
The post is now up to 1.3M likes and 160K+ comments, many of which are filled with support and thanks that she put herself out there in such a personal way. She said what we all needed to hear, so thank you.
Awesome job Heather!