Relationships don’t typically start out as abusive. Instead, the abuse slowly creeps in over time, as the person being abused is groomed to ignore the signs and begins to feel too entwined to leave. Twitter user Alyssa Schoener shared her own experience of abuse in high school, which sparked a valuable conversation:

The tweet went viral, which more than 125,000 likes and 500 comments. Many Twitter users responded to share their own stories of controlling, coercive, and abusive behavior. For example:

And these stories:

Others shared the red flags they saw in their own relationships, and were encouraged to rethink things:

Men also chimed in, sharing their work to be better:

The entire thread is worth a read, and reveals many of the signs of domestic abuse, as noted by The National Domestic Violence Hotline. If you are struggling with domestic violence, you can reach the hotline by calling 1-800-799-7223.