The term “shotgun wedding” is outdated (because honestly, in this day and age I don’t think we should care if people decide to start their families before or after or they never get married.
That said, the family in question obviously feels differently – and they wanted their non-pregnant and already-engaged daughter to give up her dream wedding venue so they could marry off the expecting daughter under the gun.
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The woman and her fiancee had even agreed to a three-year engagement so they could have the venue they wanted, so when she told her little sister that no, she wouldn’t give it up, the sister – and the whole family – pitched a toddler-sized fit.
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It’s caused a rift in the family, with the original poster’s fiancee angry enough to disinvite the pregnant sister from their wedding and the family threatening to boycott altogether.
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What. A. Mess.
Based on another post with more information, it sounds like their parents have long enabled the bratty behavior of the younger sister, and the father-to-be is on the original bride’s side, too.
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Her in-laws, as well as most of the internet, are on her side – she’s definitely NTA (not the a**hole) in our eyes.
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What do you think? I say good riddance to bad rubbish, though that’s obviously easier said when it’s not my family.
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I hope they find a way to work it out going forward!