Stalking and other obsessive behavior is more common than you think – a fact illustrated by writer and activist Johnnie Jae, who decided to share her own story of being stalked as a teenager.

She hopes that by telling her story, other young women will realize that they’re not alone…and that they should speak up if something similar happens to them.

When she was 19, a man in his late twenties, a library employee, started following her home after she visited his place of employment.

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He fre*ked her out so badly that she quit going to the library, but it wasn’t long before he showed up at her new job.

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Like many women, she wondered what she’d done. She wondered if she’d encouraged him, if she was fre*king out about nothing, if she should chill.

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Luckily, people around her let her know that she was not overreacting at all.

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Still, it got worse.

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Then, he disappeared.

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It was a strange feeling, to go from being frightened for her own life to being relieved at the loss of someone else’s, but the man’s bizarre and escalating behavior was a red flag no one should ignore.

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Plenty of women had similar experiences, and they were willing to share too.

Seems like most women have a story like this.

It’s honestly really scary how often this happens.

It’s both frightening and empowering, to realize that so many people understand what it’s like to go through something like this, but the big takeaways are this: tell someone, and you’re not alone.

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