A marriage proposal is one of the most memorable moments in life. It’s the sanctity of two people finding love and marital bliss! But what happens if the bride-to-be finds the ring first? And what if she is less than enthused about the look her soon-to-be-husband picked?

Recently, a woman found her engagement ring stuffed into her boyfriend’s nightstand. She then proceeded to post a pic to a ring-shaming group online. The reaction on Reddit was less than sweet, and maybe for good reason…

The woman offered up a roast and an “EWWWWW” and asked Reddit users how to “tactfully say no” because she wanted something different. I think we passed “tactfully” the moment this picture was posted.

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Reddit users spun out in different directions, from offering advice:

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Or lightening the mood:

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To defending her:

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While a majority tore her apart:

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It probably goes without saying, this marriage will be off to a “rock”-y start.