There are so many thing we learn in his life that we wish we would have known sooner.
But instead of wallowing in that, it’s helpful to just collect those thoughts. Consider them. Pass them on.
That’s what happened in a thread started by Twitter user @GayatriiM:
Women in their 40s, what is one life lesson you learnt late in life?
I -learnt that sacrifices you make for others are overrated. At the end of the day, you’ll be held responsible for the choices you made esp. by those whose share of responsbilities you took over!
Over to you!
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 18, 2020
Here are fifteen pieces of resulting life advice from women, for women.
15. “Make choices which make you happy”
Damned if you do, do it anyway.
Bingo! May sound too late but changing times are telling us otherwise.
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 18, 2020
14. “Say no”
You are not responsible for everything.
Learning to say NO is so liberating.
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 19, 2020
13. “IDGAF”
Not a word, but I get what you mean.
If you have mastered IDGAF, it is an achievement in itself :).how did you do that
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 19, 2020
12. “Your life is your own”
You can help people, but you can’t live for someone else.
Absolutely vital learning!
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 19, 2020
11. “There may never be a later”
Postponed may well mean cancelled.
True, Dee. Women keep denying small pleasures of life, keeping other’s priorities ahead of theirs. I started that in late 30s & not regret a day spent in self preservation.
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 19, 2020
10. “Never too late”
Don’t forget about you.
Never too late. Start planning for it now. now is the moment to sieze
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 19, 2020
9. “Don’t take everything to heart”
Some things need to be let go.
Very nice. What changed after you started this?
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 19, 2020
8. “You don’t have to reply to every message”
There’s just too much noise sometimes.
Such important lessons. It is not rude to respond to everyone but is self preservation. and silence & detachment works better at times than confrontation and arguments.
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 19, 2020
7. “Be kind and gentle”
You’re the only you you’ve got.
Such an important lesson Lakshmi. Did you face any resistance when you practiced that? a self assured woman is not looked at kindly in our patriarchal set up?
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 19, 2020
6. “Life is too short”
There are billions of people in this world, you’re not gonna win ’em all.
Absolutely! Well said.
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 19, 2020
5. “Life goes on”
Nothing lasts forever.
Hai na! And we spend a lifetime being an invisible pillar for others.
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 19, 2020
4. “Put yourself first”
Some things you want to realize before they’re too late.
True. Put yourself first. A life lesson we need to instil in our kids and not make them scapegoat for budhape ka sahara, ridden with guilt.
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 19, 2020
3. “Detachment”
Don’t get weighed down.
So so important. Negative and toxic people.
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 19, 2020
2. “Not to give in”
You’re a person, not a host.
Absolutely. Well said.
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 19, 2020
1. “Setting boundaries”
Don’t let everybody just stomp around as they please.
The concept of boundaries is missing from Indian household esp. joint families. Women need to set them up early, you stated a very valid point.
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 19, 2020
Pretty incredible stuff, and with one common theme – be good to yourself, not just those around you. You count too.
What piece of advice would you like to give?
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