IS YOU LIKE HULK SOMETIMES?
DOES YOU GET ANGRY, GO SMASH?
WANT KNOW HOW UN-HULK? BE BANNER AGAIN? SMASH CONSIDERATELY?
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Whenever I can’t exercise or burn out the feelings, I write
Pour your heart out.. and if you’re worried that someone else may read it later, you can burn it to release the energy
I like music, cleaning (with music) walks (with music); and if I’m really angry, (this may sound stupid, but it’s extremely effective) I write a letter about it, that will never be seen by anyone but me, where I can vent all the angry thoughts and get them out of me without hurting anyone.
3. RAGE CLEAN!
Rage-cleaning. Grab that f**king laundry basket and throw all your stupid clothes in it. Stomp all the way to the washer/dryer. Furiously mop your godd**ned floor. Get into your garden and lose it on the f**king weeds.
I may have used this method before. It’s a good way to use your angry energy to achieve a somewhat positive result. I find it helps if you mutter under your breath too.
4. IT DEPENDS!
Remember that anger is complex emotions masquerading as a simple one. Fear is a simple emotion, but anger never is. With that in mind:
Anger is often a response to overwhelming fear beyond our control…basically fear crossed with helplessness. If your anger is of that kind:
Biking. There’s the delightful thrill of speed that hijacks the anger adrenaline, and the action/response feedback loop (pedal harder/go faster) is both gratifying and instantaneous which short circuits the helplessness.
Anger is also often a result of accumulating hurts (sometimes irrational ones) that don’t always register on their own. Being treated poorly at work, being treated contemptuously by a lover, not making progress at the gym. If your anger is of that kind:
Movies, books, music…anything that sparks sympathetic emotion. Not sympathetic and empathetic in the “Oh that poor thing, how sad” way…sympathetic in the “internalizing someone else’s emotions” way.
Once you are internalizing someone else’s feelings and experience you can usually follow the trails back to your own and have more compassion for yourself. This usually brings you back to a more productive way forward.
There was a time in my life when I was on a path to miserable, angry misogyny, and my over-the-top emotional response to Cheryl Strayed’s Wild opened my soul to see that ugliness inside of me, and confront it.
5. THROW MARSHMALLOW!
For lower-stamina folks, throwing marshmallows is surprisingly therapeutic. Especially the campfire big kind.
They have just enough weight to hit the floor with a satisfying thud but they don’t bounce or break and there’s no secondary damage.
You could do it inside or outside.
Knitting. Whispering “stab it, strangle it, throw it off the cliff. Stab it, strangle it, throw it off the cliff.”
If that doesn’t work then sewing. Stabbing something over and over and over, then displaying it so everyone can see you have the patience to stab something thousands of times.
No sparring or anything if you’re not confident.
But it’s full on exercise and hitting a bag can really help you destress.
Plus it may be useful if you’re ever in danger
State to yourself what it is your angry about and then find a useful way to phrase it and communicate it to the person making you feel angry if it’s something that you feel is likely to change or due to a misunderstanding.
9. SCREAM AT BIRD!
Scream at birds on your front lawn.
You get the birds off your lawn and your neighbors will never talk to you because they think you’re crazy.
Two birds, one stone.
10. FIND YOUR ZEN.
Writing in a journal can be very therapeutic.
Breathing exercises to calm yourself down.
Listen to your favorite songs – make playlists ahead of time so you’ll have the right one ready that best suits your mood.
11. BAKE COOKIE!
I’ve found making some kind of baked good like the basic Nestlé cookies recipe is pretty effective.
Measuring everything helps put you back in a more controlled mindset but you can get pretty aggressive when you’re creaming the sugars and butter.
Then you need to dial it back to mix the flour in because violence isn’t the only way to express anger.
Put those cookies in the oven and have a good think about why you’re so angry, and once the cookies are out have a chat with them about why they won’t accept your aspirations of being a pro wrestler.
12. NEEDLE FELTING!
It’s a craft where you stab wool with special barbed needles to form it into 3D felt shapes. So whenever I’m angry, I stab for a few hours and usually get a cool dragon/sea monster/Mothman/incredibly round bird out of it (to name a few of my past projects).
And yes, relevant username. 😛
13. DIG HOLE!
Splitting wood with a maul or digging postholes.
They need to get done anyway and they don’t take a lot of focus.
Half a face cord or two 4-foot holes should cool you down pretty quick.
Snapping my fingers or making a fist: if I can’t exercise or punch a pillow, snapping my fingers can help.
My anger is very physical, and snapping as hard as I can is a harmless way to make a forceful and loud movement.
If it’s too loud for the situation, just clenching a fist as hard as possible, releasing it and stretching the fingers, then clenching again on repeat – helps if I tense my whole arm up too
Ripping paper: just take a couple sheets of paper and rip it into smaller and smaller pieces, combining them to be as thick as possible while still rip-able
NOW YOU BE NOT HULK IN NO TIME!
WHAT ELSE YOU DO MAKE NOT MAD?
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