When you go through a breakup and you tell your friends and family about it, the first question is almost invariably a sympathetic “what happened?”

But often, there’s no big specific thing that “happened” just a trait that made one or both of you realize you just couldn’t be together. Traits like the ones discussed here:

What opinion or behaviour would stop you being romantically interested in someone even if they ticked every other box?
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Let’s see what some of the big turn offs are for the people of Reddit.

1. Mind your manners.

Someone who is a bad guest at someone else’s house.

– Cyllev

2. Things happen.

A girl told me she had been engaged six times. She was 29.

I know things happen. But that’s a lot of things.

– J*ckingOffToTragedy

3.  A matter of expression.

“How come you don’t express yourself?”

*proceeds to express myself*

“You’re being too emotional!”.

F*ck outta here with that sh*t.

– Some_Hot_Garbage

4. A little bit.

If the person you are dating makes you feel small. Not in a physical sense but like you’re less than them.

I’ve learned thats my first sign to book it out of there.

– abbyfromhr

5. Don’t look down.

Being condescending. I hate it. It makes me angry.

Be nice to people. Accept they may not be as knowledgeable as you on a subject. Don’t condescend.

– Crazyboutdogs

6. Prized possessions.

Hoarding – I made this mistake once, I got into a relationship with a hoarder.

I eventually realized that her deeply dysfunctional relationship to objects extended to the people around her.

I was not an actual person, I was just another acquisition that was acquired and subsequently treated shabbily.

I’m not sure if this is common but I won’t take the chance again.

– nibo001

7. So shallow.

Extreme materialism.

– ace985

8. Going deep.

He told me he would much rather make small talk with a stranger then have a deep conversation with good friends.

I don’t know why I didn’t see it before but that described perfectly why we never connected on a deeper level after being together for two years.

We tried but I couldn’t make it work after that realization

– yuffieisathief

9. The company you keep.

If they have toxic friends. For a lot of reasons.

– Insane_Membranes

10. Phoning it in.

The need to constantly be on your phone.

Totally fine with spending a lot of time on it, but if you can’t put it down to watch a movie or have a conversation then it’s a problem.

– Fisherman_Gabe

11. Lies.


If you notice the person you’re interested in tells fibs or little white lies early on, it’s only going to be catastrophic once you clear the honeymoon phase

– drknockb00ts

12. You stink.

Bad hygiene

– _Yanu_

13. So full of yourself.

Entitled behavior.

People who act like the world owes them everything when they were raised with more than most people.

People who demand respect but treat others poorly.

– bangcamaroxx

14. Talk talk talk.

Someone who always talks but never really says anything.

Say what you mean, mean what you say

– reddicyoulous

15. Going clear.


– CandyRepresentative4

Yeah, I can see pretty much any of those ending an otherwise good thing.

What would you add to this list?

Tell us in the comments.