I gotta say, I got 99 problems, and being too hot definitely ain’t one.
But as easy as it is to get salty, I can absolutely see how being someone considered very good looking could come with its own host unique struggles, like the ones discussed in this Reddit thread:
Let’s get real.
1. Fear of cheating
When I was thin and hot , my boyfriend told me he was scared I’d cheat on him because I could “get someone better”.
He ended up cheating on me, saying he couldn’t take the pressure. I worry about that still .
Even though I’m single I have a hard time trusting someone’s loyalty
2. Being cool
How cool I actually am.
I’m a good looking guy but I’ve had a boring life in some capacities.
When the world shut down last year I found out other people had to give up a lot more fun and exciting plans than I did.
That really hit home and I’m working to change it.
When I just smile or laugh at a joke, people assume I’m just straight up flirting when I’m just trying to have a good time and not to flirt
4. General insecurity
im extremely insecure about who i am as a person.
I’m always worried that I’m not smart enough, that i’m too weird, too mentally unstable.
The only thing I’m not insecure about it how I look but it genuinely sucks to have people interested in you for only that reason and constantly worrying if they like you for who you are as a person
When I was in my 20s, everybody used to make me compliments.
Now that I am in my 30s this happens way less than before.
And I know that this should not bother me too much, but it does make me insecure about myself.
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6. Being shirtless
I’m insecure about my body in general despite regularly going to the gym for the past 2 years and having a decent physique. Because of that i avoid places like beaches and pools because i’d rather be dead than seen shirtless.
There are some moments when i feel proud of my body and i’ll take a cheeky pic but that’s about it.
7. The gut
My legs are shredded, arms are very toned and reasonably veiny. My back is strong and while not super toned, the muscles are visible.
All of my fat is on my hips and stomach. It’s not even that much, but it’s god**mn annoying. Also my pecs are somewhat defined with a bit of fat on top.
I hate it so much and it’s so hard to lose this last bit of fat.
I think I look very very ugly in pictures.
No matter how many people tell me I’m absolutely gorgeous in person and in pictures.
When I look in the mirror, I see the beautiful confident me but when I look at my pictures, I think I look ugly as s**t.
I don’t know why. But it’s always been like this.
9. Being used
F28. People just want to sleep with me but no one seems to see me as a serious option. I date quite a lot, and am often told that I’m cool or funny or hot, or that the s** is good, but that’s all I get, no one actually wants to be with me.
It feels like I’m a fun pastime for them but not lovable.
I’m not interested in hookups. For whatever reason, most of the guys who seem to be interested in me only want s**. They usually don’t bother to get to know me. Once they learn I’m not DTF, they’re gone.
So now I’m insecure that there’s something I’m doing that repels men that want a real relationship.
11. Mental insecurity
So every date I’ve ever been on has started with ‘oh my god you’re so much hotter than you look in your pictures’ so I guess that counts as being physically attractive. Staged bulls**t profile photos are not my thing, and if you point a camera at me you’ll usually get the finger or a stupid face.
My mentality makes me insecure. Connecting with someone physically is a piece of p**s, but I seldom connect with people mentally. 33 years old, 2 children and a number of failed relationships has made me mentally insecure far more than any physical insecurity.
I am insecure about the way I smell. I might be considered pretty, but I’ve never met a woman who sweats as much as me.
Also, my mouth. Are my lips chapped? Is my breath okay? I’m very self conscious about those things.
13. Getting older
I felt like I was good-looking and very physically fit when I was younger.
I am in my mid-30s now and I am self conscious about gaining weight and being less-mobile than I was.
I wear a beard to hide the weight in my face, and loose clothing to hide my dad-bod.
Having always been slender and athletic, it’s a big identity shift.
I can hear a lot of folks saying “yeah join the club” but the military & my own personal expectations made fitness a huge part of my self-worth.
The responsibilities of parenting, work, and being a supportive spouse make it harder and harder to meet those standards.
14. Weight gain
Always used to being the one with the perfect figure.
As a woman when you go though hormonal changes and your body weight fluctuates, it makes me very uncomfortable.
Also used to being the highlight of any event, (not exactly, but would gain attention and people would come to talk ), some days I am not in the mood and then I feel like I have an image to maintain. That is stressful at times.
On most days, the vivaciousness and brightness comes naturally. While other days, it is a mask of confidence.
15. Getting flustered
I’ve been told I’m attractive by many people, and on the surface I come across very confident and sociable.
I’ll be smooth as f**k without even trying when I talk to women I just met or that I’m friends with, but in comes a girl I would like to date and watch me in real time forget how to speak english
We’re all just trying to make our way through this crazy world, pretties and uggos alike.
What’s something you feel insecure about?
Tell us in the comments.