Being pregnant is no joke, y’all. You’re sharing your body, your emotions are crazy, you have heartburn for days, and when it’s all over, there’s a huge, scary, painful, long experience to look forward to before you get o meet your baby.
It’s worth it, sure, but that doesn’t mean pregnant women are here for your cr*p.
ALL RIGHT SINCE MY TIMELINE HAS BASICALLY BEEN ME TALKING ABOUT PREGNANCY TELL ME, PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN PREGNANT:
what is the worst thing someone said to you while you were pregnant? what's the worst thing someone said to you after you gave birth???
— Elle Has Cats (and ADHD) (@ellle_em) January 16, 2020
So many people don’t seem to realize that women who are pregnant still have and deserve boundaries, so really, none of these 18 confessions really surprised me at all.
I wish they did.
18. Both of these make me want to scream.
while pregnant: ‘you know, you should stop swearing, you’re going to be somebody’s mommy!’
after (not to me, but to my spouse in my presence): ‘so did the doctor put in an extra stitch to keep it nice and tight for you?’
— Spoon || #5 || (@glorious_spoon) January 17, 2020
17. I wonder what he hoped to accomplish.
A guy I went to HS with saw a photo of me taken 2 days before I gave birth. He sent me a PM that said “I know you had [my daughter] but what did you do with the other 7 babies?” An “Octo-Mom” reference. Charming, eh?
— Nervis Rex (@Jagenau) January 16, 2020
16. I want to cry just reading it.
When I was carrying my 2nd child I developed ligamentitis in my groin and needed a cane. PA at the practice tried to get me into PT during weekdays. I had no childcare. We were poor. She said, “Don’t you have any FRIENDS?”
“Yes. They work.”
Cried the whole way home.— Julie (@alwaysjathis) January 16, 2020
15. What on earth.
My mom gained too much weight for the doctor’s liking in the late 60s so they put her on amphetamines…while pregnant. Thankfully my mom figured out that her normally lazy b*tt wanting to clean the sidewalks was probably not good side effect and stopped shortly after starting.
— Suhaila (@Suhaila) January 17, 2020
14. I will never understand this way of thinking.
Not me but my mum gave birth to me via c-section (because I was two months premature), and years later when she and her “friends” were talking about giving birth, one of them said “oh but you wouldn’t understand, since you’ve never given birth”… ???
— Stacey Wallace (@historianstacey) January 16, 2020
13. Because people just vomit for fun.
ANOTHER:
[tw: emetophobia]
I was vomming for like the fifth time in an hour and a family member threw open the bathroom door and screamed at me to “GROW UP AND START TAKING THIS SERIOUSLY STOP BEING SUCH A CHILD ABOUT THIS”
while I was vomming
— Elle Maruska (they/them) (@ellle_em) January 16, 2020
12. I’m sorry, what century is this?
I taught while pregnant, and when I got my evals back, a student had written: “Her teaching was fine — great even — but it was disgusting to have to look at her pregnant stomach all term. Honestly, I couldn’t focus. She shouldn’t have been in the classroom.”
— Hopeless in academe (@RaRaRhapsody) January 16, 2020
11. Not all experiences are the same.
“When are you planning to get pregnant again?” Morning sickness from 2 weeks until delivery, hard labor for 36 hours, post-partum. THE ANSWER IS NEVER. The second worst thing is the follow up: “You’ll forget about all that, it fades with time” 18 yrs later: still fresh ?
— This is the Way, I Have Spoken (@NotTodayLilith) January 16, 2020
10. Everyone everywhere needs to retire this joke immediately.
While I was pregnant with my 3rd, I had my older 2 in the cart and someone in the store said “You do know how that happens, right?”
1/2— ??❤ (@DeathStarPsycho) January 16, 2020
9. How dense can you be?
After my last was born premature due to severe pre-eclampsia: “You’re so lucky not to have to go through the last month of pregnancy!”
— Holly Smith (@HollyESmith1) January 17, 2020
8. A hero for all times.
My mother’s story: after she gave birth to me she was lying on a hospital bed and a doctor came in the room to check up on her. He said “like back and open your legs, you women are good at that”. So she grabbed whatever was on her nightstand, threw it at him and screamed at him
— Marina (@MarinaBrownAjah) January 17, 2020
7. I guarantee what they need is not more guilt.
JFC the things people say to teenage moms
You’re just on the bus or walking down the sidewalk minding your own business and middle-aged women will stop you to lecture about how people like you are the downfall of society and you should be ashamed of yourself
— Ian Coldwater (@IanColdwater) January 17, 2020
6. Please stop talking like, five minutes ago.
“Omg you are SO HUGE I didn’t recognize you, are you SURE it’s not twins!?? You must have the wrong date you look ready to POP oh my god. Ive seen a lot of pregnant people and no one has looked this big to me.”
— Stefanie Moore (@Fontsensitive) January 16, 2020
5. Assuming she ate him for dinner.
While I was pregnant my lack of excessive weight gain had multiple people telling me my baby wasn’t developing right. After I gave birth my FIL asked me why I wasn’t cooking anything for them since they were my guests. ?
— SunnyB (@bnmartinez3) January 16, 2020
4. What? No, I’ve never heard of those things! /sarcasmfont
“Oh I would never let them put me on zofran , have you tried making ginger tea or using peppermint essential oils?”
— JennaBones (@Jenna_the_Narf) January 17, 2020
3. And die, I presume.
After: 2 weeks post partum I had an extreme increase in bleeding, plummeting blood pressure, and 107 fever due to mastitis. My father laughed and said “western women are so weak, in other countries they have babies and go right back to work.”
— Theresa Coffin (@TM_Coffin) January 16, 2020
2. I would have lost my sh^t and blamed it on hormones. Rightfully.
We brought baby home on Christmas Day after emergency C-section. His ENTIRE family came by to see the baby an hour after we got home. Five adults, four kids. Kids were jumping on couch (and me) while I hold baby, still in stitches. Ain’t nobody bring us food, either.
— AmandaPants ? (@EyesYourFriend) January 17, 2020
1. It really can feel like no one cares.
Worst after was me, posting in a fog of no sleep after 2 weeks basically alone with this baby, asking “when will I sleep again? I’m in so much pain.” And a friend responded, “I don’t know what you expected lol get over it, this is the job!” I heard: “no one cares”
— Stefanie Moore (@Fontsensitive) January 16, 2020
I’ve been pregnant and made it through, so even if people are saying stuff like this to you, you’ll get to the other side, too!
What would you would add to this list – did anyone’s comment leave a lasting impact?
Share with us in the comments!