I’m a man. At least on paper. Most days I feel more like a confused kid, or perhaps some kind of forgotten species of weasel whose forthcoming extinction will go unheralded.

I’ve always been a little jealous of the sorts of people who really feel like they’ve got a firm and comfortable grasp on who they are – on what their identity is.

But reading through these submissions on what moments made guys feel like “real men,” I realized something that might just qualify as important. I realized that I’ve had a lot of these experiences too, and they did feel really good. And that that sort of confidence boost probably just isn’t permanent – security comes and goes. And that’s alright. And it’s alright to take note of the moments that make you feel proud.

20. Moving out

And definitely movin’ on up.

Source: Whisper

19. What’s mine is yours

Not sure why this is accompanied by a picture of a dog leash but I’m not here to judge.

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18. Working out

Man, I REALLY gotta start doing this again.

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17. I’ll drink to that

If I remember right my first beer purchase was something horribly embarrassing.

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16. Vote and tote

Two out of three ain’t bad.

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15. Friendly advice

It’s a little frightening and a lot empowering.

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14. By the self

Yeah, agreed.

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13. Family dinner

“So, do you have any siblings?”

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12. Bringing forth

It’s gotta feel so invigorating and so intimidating.

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11. A helping hand

That’s awesome.

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10. A double header

“She’s my girlfriend now.”

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9. Housewarming

MAN, that must be nice.

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8. All the furnishings

That sticker shock is really something else though.

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7. Serious business

Kind of amazes me we’re still doing this much jet-setting around when we can easily video conference.

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6. If I may inject

I feel ya, dude. Every time I get blood drawn I immediately feel like I’m gonna pass out.

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5. Jack of all Trades

But are you the master of any?

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4. Soldier on

Thank you for your service.

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3. Trudge back

It may not sound like much, but you have no idea how painful that can be.

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2. Movin’ out

And movin’ on.

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1. A sporting chance

Um, are you talking about the Olympics?

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It’s nice to feel like you’ve really come into your own.

Have you had a moment like that in your life?

Tell us about it in the comments.