Get ready to fight, internet, because today we’re talking about gender and double standards.

Or at least Reddit is, following this prompt.

What is a double standard that is seen positively when women do it but negatively when men do it?
byu/Real_loser23 inAskReddit

So, what do we see as a problem in this area? And how many of these stand up to scrutiny? Let’s have a look at some opinions.

1. Kid stuff

Anything kids related.

I actually like kids and think it’s fun to play with them within the given social boundaries.

I often go out of my way to avoid interacting with them though, not to be seen as a p**ophile or a kidnapper.

– crookedhope

2. Spa days

As a teenager, I went to a nail salon with my dad and convinced him to get a mani pedi with me.

It was like they never saw a man get their nails done.

He didn’t get polish or anything and they still looked and treated him weird. (The other customers and the ladies doing our nails.)

never went back to that place again

– Raid100

3. Eating disorders

overcoming eating disorders.

i am a woman but ive noticed so many men in my life that struggle with their body image and disordered eating and they’re way less likely to get help for it

– throwawaypsychnurse

4. Not working

I’ve heard stories of women who were happy to work and made plenty of money for the both of them while the dad stayed home to take care of the kids.

However, it seems like the dad is always chewed out for not working. And add more weird things to it, some of the times women are also chewed out FOR working while other women make huge deals out of working.

So I guess yeah, going against the standard male lead family.

– Questionable-Duck4

5. Just hangin’ out

When a guy wants to go out and hang with his buddies, but his gf/wife says no, everybody understands and deals with it.

But when a girl wants to go out and hang with her friends, and her bf/husband says no, everybody gets concerned.

– Dr-Jiggles

6. The work balance

Being in female dominated professions like pre-school/kindergarten teachers, nannies, nurses, nail technicians, etc…

People treat men in these professions like they’re either gay, a pervert, or a p**ophile and it’s not cool.

– SquilliamFancySon95

7. Being squeamish

If a girl doesn’t want to do something because they think it is gross, someone feels obliged to do it for them.

A man doesn’t want to do something because they find it gross, “Man up.”

Quote directly from my OWN MOTHER when I couldn’t pick up cat s**t because I felt I would throw up.

– Pizzaboy90

8. Butt pats?

You guys seen that clip where a girl jumped into a male Soccer game and touch all the players butts and all she got was a slap on the wrist?

If a guy did that to a Female game then the internet would go off like a nuclear bomb and he would be labeled a r**ist.

– NateW08

9. Then there’s…this…

This is extremely specific but a TikTok creator made a video where she was in the passenger seat of a car and her teenage son was in another car. They driver pulled up next to him, mom’s pants off, and mom mooned the kid.

Her son was not amused. “Your vagina was out.”

Someone in the comments said “Imagine the rage if a man did that to his daughter.”

The mom’s response? “F**k off. This is just who are family is!”

Hey, that commenter wasn’t wrong. People would have gone bananas over a teenage girl being grossed out and saying “Dad, your b**ls were out.”

– EatingTurkey

10. Better watch out

I saw on Instagram this girl run up to jack harlow (young rapper) whilst he was leaving some place.

His security guard pushed her off him but my immediate thought was, if this was a guy running up to give a female celeb and unwanted hug he’d get a lot of backlash

– hahahahahalmao

11. Dance

The blatant sexism of the dance world.

My son (12) was into dance until last year. We live near a decent dance studio with a competition team.

One year, my son and another boy were assigned to a competition dance with over a dozen girls. The boys were an integral part of that team, but to hear the moms of the girls talk, they didn’t exist.

We’d go to a competition and the next day, you’d see the moms of the girls on the team post a picture of the whole team and make a comment like “So proud of our girls!”. They shout these things during the performance sometimes, “Go girls!”. They’re not intending to be mean or exclusionary, they’re just not used to having to scrutinize their behavior.

I just think back to all the times I played rec sports as a kid when there would be 1 or 2 girls on the team. If a parent cheering in the stands had ever said, “Good job, boys!”, that would have been considered unacceptable behavior back then.

This is just an example. The whole dance enterprise is biased against boys in tons of ways.

– Droidatopia

12. Socializing

Socialising in general…

Me and my gf moved countries recently and she has a much easier time approaching and making friends with strangers at gigs, pubs etc then me.

I feel like I’m treated with suspicion, like I have ulterior motives.

– EdgeHarvest

13. Abuse

Domestic abuse being played for comedy.

You can show a wife slapping her husband or hitting him with a frying pan in a tv show and it’s funny. If the husband does it, no one laughs.

A great example is the movie “My Super Ex-Girlfriend”. Gender swap that movie and it goes from comedy to horror.

– shadowrangerfs

14. Showing your emotions

If a woman is angry, she’s strong, if a man is angry, he’s aggressive and probably abusive. If a woman is sad or crying, she is justified in this reaction, I a man cries he needs to man up and is seen as weak

After our daughter was born, my wife was treated for post natal depression, but I struggled to get anyone to believe that I needed help. People told me that men can’t have PND, as if depression is not for men.

– RepresentativeOdd909

15. Body preferences

when girls can say “i only date tall guys” but if a guy says he has a preference on who he dates he’s being “misogynistic” “body shaming” “a pig”

– thatswhat_shesaid1

A bit of food for thought there.

But what do you think of all these?

Give us your opinions in the comments.