Fellas, do you feel pretty unattractive? I know I do most of the time.

But good news! It turns out we might have been hot without even knowing it. My evidence? This thread on Reddit.

What is something non-sexual that your partner does that really turns you on?
byu/LorryToTheFace inAskReddit

There’s all kinds of stuff in here about the things people say their male partners do that drive them wild. Maybe one of them applies to you?

1. The little things

Being kind and rubbing my hand with his finger.

– pinkitbop

2. Nice and clean

He loves to wash my hair.

Sometimes he’ll jump in the shower with me and the way he so tenderly makes sure to get every strand, even behind my ears… it makes me feel like the most adored and precious thing on the planet.

– soapdishlunch

3. That’s all, folks!

When he laughs at my jokes I feel like the funniest woman in the world!

– chataround

4. Delicious


I love when he makes me dinner and it turns out amazing.

– iNuttedInShrek

5. I approve

When he does something and he’s proud of himself, he always looks at me or gets my attention and he just reminds me of a little kid who needs to be praised!

It’s adorable though, I love it. It means my approval matters to him 🙂

– truelovemaureen

6. You’re welcome

His cute smile when I compliment him

– pmursmile

7. Being an awesome dad

He plays with our son, the little one’s face lights up like a Christmas tree, they laugh like crazy.

I observe from the other side of the room, my heart gets filled with love, but in my mind we are all alone, and I’m stripping him down already.

– PasionatelyRational

8. Can’t stand it

When he stands. Omg.

He can just stand there with his hands in his pockets, waiting for me. It’s… Yes. It really is the best.

– Ami1Misaki

9. Shower down

Right after he takes a shower.

The wet hair and towel look.

– copper_rabbit

10. ‘Sup?

The whole “nonchalantly leaning on a door frame in rolled sleeves” thing.

I love muscle on a guy, and subtly showing that off is so hot

– bipolar-butterfly

11. When he’s working on my car

He’s all dirty and rolling around on the creeper… I just wanna hop on top and ride him into the sunset… like D**NNNN BABEEEEE HOWWW ARE YOU SO FINEEEE…. bout to crash on the way home just to watch him work on it.

– coppertop199

12. Domestic bliss

when he pushes the shopping cart (specifically around target, lol). that shit makes me wanna jump on him. basically anything simple and domestic

– shecouldnever

13. Getting heavy

Operating heavy equipment and driving trucks.

He worked for a municipality so when I was around town and see him in a loader or truck… omg, getting tingly just thinking about it! He also worked for local farmers and drove tractor & combine.

Crazy sexy!

– thalsty1971

14. Cat scratch fever

He has a cat and will periodically proclaim “ARE YOU A GOOD BOY? Yes.” to his cat. Out of nowhere.

He also pays a ton of attention to my cats when he’s at my place.

I LOVE that he just genuinely cares about other critters.

– AmateurG

15. Gettin’ it done

When he puts a pencil behind his ear just before starting to mark out something DIY related.

That just bites lip ummmm

– happyscatteredreader

16. Good at home

Makes me dinner (he’s a great cook), fixes stuff, builds stuff…any work with his hands usually gets me.

– foolish42

17. Focus up

Just seeing him walk… I can’t explain it, his broad shoulders swaying is just really sexy.

Also watching him be really focused on something like building stuff or working to the computer.

How he focuses on something for so long still amazes my ADHD brain.

– One_Memory458

18. Respect

When he stretches a bit and his shirt kinda goes up and shows a bit of his stomach.

I am looking respectfully ???

– dentist3214

19. A nice trim

Trimming his beard, fresh out of the shower just walking around looking cute unintentionally

– tinyfeetAX

20. Bury me now

Oooh, when I’m making tea/coffee or just relaxing on the couch and he comes up behind me and puts his arms around me and buries a kiss in my neck.

Amazing feeling.

– deftonesgirl

21. Wearing shorts

My husband is this huge fat guy but has amazingly ripped calves.

He also usually wears dress pants, so when I see his sexy calves in shorts, I get the vapours

– LadyXaviaraH

22. Massages

My guy will give me a massage and rub my upper back neck. He’s not trying anything frisky, he is just trying to get rid of any knots I may have. He gets me all loosened up and the blood starts flowing right down to my key girl parts. And since I am enjoying being pampered, I am making some very appreciative sounds which gets HIM all hot and bothered. When I am all loosey goosey I will lean back into him and I notice that he is like “oh hey, hello” if you catch my drift.

Also when he grabs his sons (cats) and is being all super cute cat daddy.

He will hold them in his lap and scratch and kiss their heads and they mash their fuzzy little faces into his beard and moustache.

– SouthPaw7896

23. Come to my defence

When he actually yelled at my roommate for disrespecting me.

He was super angry and isn’t much of a yeller.

When he came back to our bedroom, I told him “d**n that was sexy.”

– icats77

24. The giggles

My GF once told me she is really turned on when I giggle. After I reasonable told her that’s what a stalker serial killer would say, she promptly retorted “Well who do you think followed you before we met, and what the f**k do you think is in my basement captain obvious”

And oh boy did it take a lot of willpower not to giggle.

– YotenSchmote

25. His vocabulary

He always uses such exquisite words.

Truly brings truth to the quote from DPS: Language was invented for one reason, boys – to woo women – and, in that endeavor, laziness will not do.

– tanser

26. The list

Whenever he:

•Speaks in his “sleepy voice”

•Goes on long rants about topics he’s passionate about

•Fixes things from home appliances to technology

•Gives a brief, but thoughtful speech about how much our relationship means to him (my primary love language is words of affirmation)

– shaycode

27. The special touch

When my partner and I first started dating, we visited his hometown and he drove me around. As he was driving he would occasionally just wordlessly place his hand on my thigh, not with sexual intent, just in a comforting way. For some reason it felt like the hottest thing I had ever experienced!

Also kind of an offshoot of that, but I’ve heard it’s a pretty common thing for women to find find it insanely attractive when a man is reversing a car and puts his arm on the backseat as he turns his body to do so, lol. I guess there’s just something about a man who’s a good driver.

– sailorsappho

28. The waiting

I don’t know man, I think it’s when he bends over on purpose waiting for me to smack his **s that really turns me on.

– WombDrinker

29. The quiet ones

Talking about his past. He is a sealed book and when he does open up a little, it’s mesmerizing.

– Werliest

30. Stand at attention

When he is either just standing/in his military uniform or when he’s just doing little things.

Biting his lip/sticking out his tongue as he works on something on his computer.

Or the little smile he gets when he’s thinking about something or looking at me.

Or just the little things he does when we goof around because he loves to see me happy.

D**n I love my fiancé.

– Ravenwatcher22

I think there’s hope for all of us.

What’s a little thing your partner does that gets you hot and bothered?

Tell us in the comments.