Friendships can be one of the greatest joys available in this life – right up until they go wrong.
There’s no accounting for the selfishness sometimes; it can really shock you, and leave you with a regrettable story forever.
What’s the shittiest way a friend has shown you they weren’t really your friend?
byu/mediastoosocial inAskReddit
Here are a few such stories from the people of Reddit.
1. The False Alarm
When I was in college, a close friend from high school called me in a panic saying his girlfriend was just discharged from the hospital and he needed to go take care of her. When I say close, I mean every weekend together, called each other’s moms “Mom.” We had a really tight, small circle of friends, so of course I went to help. I had spent all day at school and all night working dinner at a restaurant, but in an emergency like that, sure, I got you.
I drove 40 minutes to get him, then an hour to her house. He’s trying not to panic the whole way.
When we pull up, the bedridden girl who needed round the clock assistance was sitting on the curb smoking a cigarette, then bounces up and says, “Give me a hug, f**ker!”
I very loudly and aggressively made it clear what a piece of s**t he was for lying about this. I made sure he knew that he traded our friendship for a ride to his girlfriend’s house.
Then I drove the hour home and except for acknowledging him at his brother’s wedding, haven’t spoken to him since.
– audiate
2. Going AWOL
I had 12 hours before I deployed to Afghanistan. I lived about 6 hours from my point of departure (airport from which I would fly into theater) and my friend/ex-girlfriend had committed to driving me there on that day.
Packed, dressed, goodbyes said, I take an Uber to her house with all my gear and baggage ready to go. I knock on the door and she answers in her robe. I ask her if she was about ready and she proceeds to tell me that she forgot (after we had talked 2 days prior) and that she really wasn’t feeling like driving that distance.
Utterly shocked and confused, I explain to her that if I miss my flight, it’s considered a “failure to report for duty” and I could be considered a deserter or AWOL. Heavy consequences for it either way. She told me to figure it out and closed the door.
At that point I had no idea what to do so I called my first sergeant. We worked in a very remote location and he was the closest person to me at that point. That man drove the 3 hours from his home to get me and then the other 6 hours to the airport.
Bought me dinner and got me tipsy before I had to get on my flight. I had the stunning realization that day that you really can’t trust anyone, but I gained a lifelong friend as a result. We still talk regularly ’til this day!
– BeefyT1ts
3. The Cold Shoulder
The horrible first impression my at the time ‘best friend’ had on my at the time new girlfriend who is now years later my wife.
We all went out to dinner and my wife is shy and quiet while my friends are loud and rowdy. My friends cousin kept messing with her and being obnoxious despite her very much telling him to stop. At one point he made inappropriate comments on her boobs and it got to the point where she ended up crying and walking out of the restaurant.
I followed her and my “friend” who had been in the bathroom at the time called me to ask what happened I told him his cousin was being a d**k and his response was that my gf was being a b**ch, that they were trying to get her to talk more but she was “giving them the cold shoulder” and wasn’t welcome to their outings anymore.
He went on to apologize later on but was having problems with alcoholism and we drifted our separate ways before long.
– Psychotic_Jester
4. A Little Effort?
I drive 6 hours(one way) twice in the span of a year to visit this f**ker because I thought we were friends and he acted like we were. It cost me $300 each time to visit him but he was alone in his new city(he moved away for his first job post uni) and kept msging me saying I should come visit blah blah blah.
Later I find out this guy has came back to my town multiple times and didn’t hit me up once, and he stayed for months at a time! Then I tell him about this and he says okay he’ll visit next time he’s back in town.
So then next time comes around and he stops by literally right before he’s about to drive home, to say hi for 5 mins… like dude you don’t wanna see me why are you just going through all this bs and making me waste my money.
– lifeofjeb2
5. “Oh Well”
Promised to invite me to a group outing, only to text me one day out of the blue that they already left and “oh well”.
From mutual friends who went on the outing, they told me that this friend never told them that I was invited.
– Ahstia
6. The Wedding No-Show
I offered to pay everything and even pay her for her time off work for my best friend to come to my wedding but she didn’t.
It was a really small backyard wedding and I didn’t have any bridesmaids nor did I want anyone to spend money getting dresses blah blah blah. I just wanted her to come.
The excuse she gave was work and so I understood but then later found out she lied and had planned a trip with her other friends.
I still don’t know why she didn’t want to come. we were friends for over 10 years and although It wasn’t the first time she had really hurt me, it was the last.
– breakingwaves67
7. Are You Driven?
I had a very close friend in high school, she moves to Alabama for uni after we graduated, but we kept close!
When she came back we didn’t talk much, but I still considered her a close friend. We went out for coffee about two years ago, she kept asking me about my life and my goals and I said I was happy where I am (I coach gymnastics) and my boyfriend and I will eventually take over his family farm, and start our own family.
She texted me two days later and said “hey so my entrepreneur friend is hosting a workshop, do you want me to sign you up?” I said no but thanks for the offer, she then texted me “so clearly we are at two different points in our lives, you have no goals, or ambitions, and I don’t want that kind of negativity in my life. I wish you the best” and I never spoke to her again.
– chazzieboii
8. Can’t Drink
This is currently happening. I had a stroke in 2020 (I’m young, 31) and then found out that my kidneys were failing shortly after.
I know it’s a pandemic, but not one of my friends have even texted me to check on me, or ask my husband who they’re all also “friends with”.
Literally everyone cut me off when I got sick. Can’t drink? Not friends anymore.
– Ok_Eye_3511
9. Who Knows What Happened
After 25 years of friendship…I announced to my best friend that I was moving to the city she was in. I had a great job opportunity and felt like it was an awesome time to make a big life change. I was so excited to tell her, I could hardly wait. She flatly replied with, “cool”…and when I asked her what parts of town I should look at to live she stated “I can’t help you, you should just figure it out when you get here”.
We never had a fight, had been close for our entire adult lives and I had continually helped her in all aspects of her life without hesitation. To this day, I cannot tell you why she started treating me this way.
Long story short, we live in the same city and haven’t seen each other in 6 years. And I’m quite sure we live minutes away from each other. I will prob never know what happened
– Due-Time-8151
10. Jealousy
It was my 17th birthday. I had invited 2 of my “best friends” to stay the night. I waited for hours and finally got a text saying they got in trouble (they were twins) and couldn’t stay the night. About an hour later they were tagged in pictures. They were at another girls house.
I confronted them the next day and they stuck with their lie and said their mom wouldn’t drive them because they were in terrible so they walked to this other girls house. My mom asked their mom because she knew how hurt I was. She didn’t even know about my birthday, and they weren’t in trouble.
I stopped hanging out with them.
Learned a few months later that one of them had decided she didn’t like me because her 20 year old crush (another friend’s brother) had said It was a shame I was a minor because he thought I was cute.
– daisydoom456
11. That’s the Ticket
Had one friend that bought a bunch of tickets for a midnight movie premiere for myself and our entire friends group (bout 15 of us)
Day of the show, he texts me and says he forgot to buy a ticket for me.
I ask “what do you mean you forgot to buy”my” ticket? Of the 15 you bought, how is it MY ticket that you decided wasn’t purchased?”
Turns out, he did buy a ticket for me included in the 15 he bought, but he just met a girl the week prior, and decided to give my ticket to her.
So our entire friends group went to the movie, minus me.
There’s other things he did to me as well. We’re no longer friends.
– alwaysmyfault
12. The Fridge Debacle
A friend was moving internationally, he offered me a fridge and washing machine for about half price. I was in Uni, but desperately needed it. I told him i had like $20 p/w to work with and he was cool with it. We agree to $15 per week for a year.
6 weeks later his girlfriend comes around to tell me he wants to take me to court to get the rest in one payment. I get served and go to court and present the original agreement. His girlfriend says he needs the money urgently and the judge says that don’t mean s**t.
He then calls my dad and says I stole his s**t, Dad calls me and I lay it all out. Dad ends up paying him the remainder just to get him to go away.
– CompletelyFlammable
13. The Birthday Dinner
My sixteenth birthday I invited my friends over for a party including dinner. I spent all day cooking with my dad and made beautiful chocolate mousse cups in chocolate bowls, I went all out and I was so proud of the meal. I told everyone that dinner was at 6:30.
Nobody showed up until 8:30. They were completely stoned and had a bag of toys from Dollartree. I had already cleaned up and put away all the food. They had all been hanging out without me on my birthday and I was still an afterthought.
– TheBrontosaurus
14. Very Driven
Met ex-friend as a coworker. He needed a ride home since he didn’t have a car so I offered. Drove him home d**n near every shift for 3 years. Became my closest friend.
I was 16, just started driving. He was in his mid-early twenties. Now as a teenager I made some bad decisions and wasn’t the best guy. But this was 8 some odd years ago.
Fast forward to 4 months ago. When he told my fiance every terrible thing I’ve done throughout my life, and detailed to her every reason she should leave me. Gave her a spare key to his house and told her that when she makes the right decision his doors are open.
Apparently he’s been trying to end our relationship for almost 2 years. Feeding her lies and whispering in her ear about how bad a person i am. So that he can have my fiance join HIS fiance in a 3 way relationship.
– Hastur_19
15. The Blizzard
My freshman year in college I had 2 roommates and one of their girlfriends came to visit for the weekend so the other roommate and I were gonna give them the room to themselves for a little while. Most nights this wouldn’t be a big deal but this was in the middle of a blizzard and we had almost 2 feet of snow so there wasn’t really anywhere to go.
So my roommate and a few buddy’s were gonna take a friend’s truck out for a ride thru the snowy hills we lived in and smoke some weed. As we are walking out to the truck I realized I forgot something and ran back upstairs to grab it real quick and when I came back down I see the truck driving away without me.
Turns out one of the our other friends had their gf in town too and he brought her along so there wasn’t room in the car for me anymore so they just left without me without waiting or even trying to tell me.
– HorsNoises
16. Ghosted
Ghosted me after 20+ years of friendship.
He was my best friend for as long as I can remember but at some point he just stopped saying yes when I suggested getting together. We could have a conversation about anything but the second I brought up doing something it was radio silence. He finally agreed to something then blew me off like an hour beforehand. No rain check or suggestion we try again. I was depressed for days but that was the day I gave up.
He was the best man at my wedding. I loved him like a brother and still hope he’s doing well and happy. But the rejection hurts so much that I just don’t try anymore.
I’ve mourned the death of our relationship and am done with it. And I still don’t know why.
– SonicPhoenix
17. The Tape
When I was a kid, I had a friend who was poor as h**l. My family didn’t have much, either, but his was worse off. I used to give him things, now and then. Toys, and whatnot.
When I was 10, my mom died. Some months later, I was at my friend’s house, and he showed me a cassette tape that I’d given him, and then played it. It had my mom’s voice on it. For some reason, I had recorded a conversation with her. I thanked my friend for the tape, and he asked what I meant. I told him thanks for giving it back. He said that no, I gave it to him, and it was his. Then to show that it was his, he took it out of the tape deck, pulled the tape from the cassette, and snapped it.
We were kids, sure, but that was one of the sh**tiest things that someone has ever done to me.
– Half-bred
18. Bait and Switch
I gave her a birthday present and she just said she didn’t like it and found it in the thrash when I visited
She would always be late to everything
She got tickets to an Incubus concert and a meet and greet, it wasn’t in our city so I saved all of my money to be able to afford the trip and a week before she texted me saying she was going to Disneyland so she sold the tickets
I painted a whole big beautiful mural in her room and two months later just painted over it with purple cause she got bored
Invited me for coffee and I got really excited because I hadn’t seen her for a while and had a lot going on, I was almost homeless at the time so I took the little money I had to pay for my coffee, I got there and it was a MLM with like six other people (just as disappointed as me)
Then she did it again, I don’t know why I thought it would be different, that’s the last time I saw her
– Kovvacs
19. Order in the Court
I had a falling out with my best friend and at one point they wanted to reconcile so we had a day together and it was good.
About two weeks later I am summoned to court on traffic charges and refusing to appear. It turned out that this person was stopped by police, did not have identification and claimed to be me.
Once the judge read the police report, giving physical description of what was supposed to be me, he looked at me and dismissed the case.
I never saw that person again.
– depthnoir
20. The Driver
They called me up and invited me over to play a game with them and their friends. At the time I had only barely started driving, but I decided, yeah, that sounds like fun, so I went over to play.
When I arrived I found out that they had volunteered me to pick up the other friends. I was not prepared to do this, but she trapped me because I had already agreed to come play “with her friends”. I was pretty annoyed by this, but I went ahead and drove to three places picking everyone up, and no one was really ready to go when I arrived and one of them also needed me to drop them back on campus to drop off their school assignment.
By the time all was said and done it was really late and I needed to get back home because I had to get up in the morning to go to work. Not one of them even said thank you. The friendship didn’t really last much longer after that.
– AnEven7
21. The Cruel Lie
In 8th grade, after I switched schools, a friend of mine called me one night and told me a kid I wanted to be friends with killed himself.
3 months later I visit their graduation ceremony and find out he lied to me and that the kid was still alive.
– A_Jack_of_Herrons
22. An Absolute Knockout
My best friend since middle school got me knocked unconscious after starting a confrontation with a large group of guys.
Proceeded to tell everyone we worked with that I had started it.
Few weeks later I had returned from a holiday to my home country and he had moved one of his friends into my room at the place we were renting.
Never talked to him again
– scratch32
23. The Homewrecker
My best friend got with my first husband while I was pregnant, helped destroy our marriage, supported him so he could quit his job and avoid paying child support.
Then she joined him in abusing my kids while they were with him, and then tried to cry on my shoulder when he ended up screwing her over when they split after 14 years of jointly making my life a living h**l.
– Tired_But_Scrappy
24. The Investigation Instigator
Lied about me at our government job where I was investigated by the AG and ultimately caused me to leave a job and a boss I loved
She quit when we found out it was her who lied as she knew my boss would can her a**.
Oh and I’m the one who got her hired
I forgot to add the best part of all- I was one week post partum on maternity leave when she decided it was the appropriate time to do all this.
Talk about some ppd… it was rough
– puzzleslut91
25. The Breakup Coach
Friend took me out to lunch and let me cry to her after I broke up with my ex. She said she had to go to her moms for awhile and she’d be back that evening with treats and a Redbox.
She ended up hooking up with my ex
– tinymom7674
26. The Sneaky Seminar
Made us come to her seminar thing for some pyramid scheme thing (I just know it is), I thought we were going to hangout and she told me that she was going to bring us out and eat.
She just abandoned us right after that s**t
– quelaiin
27. The Constructed Betrayal
We were friends since babies, our moms worked at the same place. My mom saw him as her own child and frequently he was at our house after school, because her mom was kind of absent.
His family moved out of the state but we kinda kept in touch then he came back, while we were on our 20s; my mom was going to start remodeling the house, he insisted on helping us since he was working with a construction company.
Long story short, he said he needed some money for the construction permits, in hindsight it wasn’t even that much but he took the money and we never saw him again, he even blocked me on Facebook.
We later found out that the permit costs was a fraction of the money he took. Biggest pain in the heart was watching my mom crying, disappointed that her “own son” would do that to her. So f**k him.
– EraseRewindPlay
28. “I Would Never Do That to You”
My ex got with 2 of my friends after a pretty bad breakup to the point where it just seemed like she was trying to hurt me and my so called friends were willing to do the same to get some action.
So I was in the car with a 3rd friend on thanksgiving eve telling him how much this was affecting me to which he replied “that’s so sh**ty man I’d never do that to you” well that Christmas the very next month another friend shows me a picture of that friend and my ex together on instagram…they started dating shortly after that.
– SimpinOnGinandJuice
29. The Cheat
She started f**king my husband while I was pregnant. […]
Yes, I divorced him, and haven’t spoken to her since I found out.
The experience was a catalyst for a metric f**kton of personal growth, and I’m now living a fuller and more authentic life without them in it.
Amor fati, y’all.
– NoCuntryforToldMen
30. In the Blink of an Eye
My “best friend” in high school invited me to a blink182 concert days in advance because someone else cancelled.
He was in my driveway and I was about to get in his car and the guy called him and said he changed his mind so he left to go to the concert without me.
– JayPx4
Well, that’s a bummer and a half.
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