The subreddit title Am I The A**hole is always rife with drama and situations that make you really think – it’s kind of like an advice column but where there’s no expert giving answers, just other people on the internet weighing in.
And this guy wondering if he’s the a**hole is definitely stirring up some differing opinions.
Basically, he won millions of dollars in the lottery (rough life, right?) and wants to give a hefty amount of it to his ex-wife (they have 2 kids together). They’re divorced because he cheated on her with his current girlfriend, so he was definitely the a**hole in that situation.
Now, though, that girlfriend is pissed at him – to the point of threatening to break up – because she thinks him wanting to give his ex the money means he’s still in love with her.
He maintains it’s just about giving back to her and ensuring that his children have a good, comfortable life no matter whose house they’re at, and, well…people have thoughts.
Some (most, perhaps) think he’s definitely NTA (not the a**hole).
Because reasons…
And more reasons…
And more…
Others think his girlfriend maybe has a point…
Because that’s A LOT of money…
But you’re not THAT much of an as$hole…
Because loyalty!
And a few think everyone involved sucks (ESH, everyone sucks here).
Because doesn’t everybody suck in these cases?
I don’t know where you fall, but I’m with the NTA folks – there’s nothing wrong with him wanting to make sure his kids and their mother don’t have to worry, and it sounds like he’s got plenty to spare.
Also, if the thought of his gf breaking up with him makes him feel relieved, well…I think the answer there is pretty clear.
My two cents!