It seems like every day, people on Twitter find a new topic to viciously debate. Recently, it’s been emotional boundaries.
One user posted a thread advising people to check in with their friends before dumping bad news on them, but their advice was not well-received. Quite the opposite—it’s being viciously meme-ified.
I just want to say, a lot of y’all dump information on your friends at the wrong time without their consent. If you know it’s something that could hurt them, ask permission before you decide to be messy. Please. pic.twitter.com/L3jWGni1FW
— yana (@YanaBirt) November 29, 2019
Just in case that tweet ever disappears… Twitter user @YanaBirt shared a screenshot of a text in which they ask someone:
“Are you in the right headspace to receive information that could possibly hurt you?”
They captioned the tweet with further information.
“I just want to say, a lot of y’all dump information on your friends at the wrong time without their consent.
If you know it’s something that could hurt them, ask permission before you decide to be messy.
The intention here is definitely positive. But… guess what? A LOT of people vehemently disagreed with @YanaBirt’s choice of phrasing.
The criticism mostly centered on the cold and foreboding tone of the text message.
If you got this in your texts, you likely wouldn’t be able to think about anything else until you found out what the hurtful information was, so the idea of saying “no” is not even on the table.
It’s also framed as a yes/no question but in reality the possibility of “no” as an answer is not realistic. Once you dump that question on someone, even if they are not in the right headspace they kind of have to say yes or else deal with the anguish of an unknown horrible thing.
— JustaWoman (@petitlarcenous) December 2, 2019
“I will absolutely NOT be in the right headspace after receiving a message like that,” one person wrote.
“Sending me this is ten times worse for my emotional labor capacity than just telling me what you want to talk about,” another said.
“I would literally start crying if I received this message,” a third said.
Checking in before dumping horrible news on someone is a good idea, but this? Is not it.
Anyway, onto the memes!
Mr. President, are you in the right headspace to receive information that can possibly hurt you right now? pic.twitter.com/r2e2s3Nmf3
— ?? Christmas Valentina ?? (@leftistthot420) December 2, 2019
Were you prepared for such roasting?
Me: Hi can I get an ice cream cone please
McDonald’s worker: Are you in the right headspace to receive information that could possibly hurt you?
— Chris, but with fireworks ? (@bayoulejeune) December 2, 2019
Currently working myself into the right headspace for emotional pain. Feels awesome. Feels powerful. If you love me, I am ready for you to destroy me. Crumple me like paper. Shatter me like glass. I am begging you to ruin me. I want this. I am ready. This is my headspace.
— Ben O'Brien ??? (@benfobrien) December 2, 2019
Not even close to being prepared.
ceo: the ransomware has taken over our entire system. when was our last off-site backup?
sysadmin: are you in the right headspace to receive information that could possibly hurt you
— Katerina Borodina (@kathyra_) December 2, 2019
— erikα? (@eerikataylor) December 1, 2019
Gotta love Twitter for combining serious mental health talk with memes 24/7!
What do you think? Should people check with their friends before sharing bad news or is that the whole point of having a friend?
Let us know in the comments!