I can’t see the words “deal breaker” without hearing Liz Lemon’s catchphrase from 30 Rock, “That’s a dealbreaker, ladies!”

And the things mentioned in this Reddit thread DEFINITELY would be.

What first date behavior is a dealbreaker?
by inAskReddit

What horrors should tell you to not schedule a second date? Let’s hear some stories.

1. Constantly talking.

I think when they don’t even ask you about yourself, maybe that sounds weird, but I had a date that would be constantly talking about her life and friends and what not, I would ask her questions to but she never once asked me about anything…

– mercah44

2. Laying a trap.

Went on a first date a few years ago. He took me to an exclusive members-only club, bought the most expensive bottles of wine, handed me his wallet to pay for the wine, then excused himself to go to the bathroom, all so I could see how much money he had. (He had well over £2000 in there).

I thought that was weird, but chalked it up to him trying to impress me in a weird way. I wasn’t.

After that, he took me to a strip club where the bar staff knew him by name. I was incredibly uncomfortable, but it got even worse when 2 of his friends just “coincidentally” bumped into him at the club, sat with us, then hired strippers to sit on their laps. I stayed 5mins, then excused myself to the bathroom. The plan was to come up with an excuse to leave as soon as I got back. I returned, took another sip of my champagne (which I’d stupidly left unprotected before heading to the bathroom), stayed another 5mins, then said I had to leave. They tried everything they could to get me to stay, but I refused.

As soon as I stood up, I felt lightheaded, and finally understood why: My drink had been spiked!

I panicked and walked off, with my date following me desperately begging me to stay a little longer. He then offered to get in the taxi with me and escort me home. I refuse. I got to the taxi rank, got into a taxi, and we had a heated conversation with him offering to escort me home and me responding with “I’m a big girl and can take care of myself.”

Taxi driver must have sense something was off any intervened telling him I’d said no, and that was that. He drove off, asked for my address, got me home safe and sound. By then I was passed out in the back of the taxi. I don’t remember how I got indoors, but I remember waking up on the bathroom floor the next morning feeling perfectly fine. No sign of a hangover, or anything which solidified my belief I was never drunk to begin with and was definitely spiked.

In the voice of Comic Book Guy: Worst. First date. Ever.

– _usernametoolong_

3. Too much too soon.

Immediately starting with the “I love you” attitude…

– koravel

4. Just rude.

Showing up late and not texting ahead of time.

You’re not “playing it cool” if you’re 20 minutes late without saying anything.

– Dajerts

5. I see your scheme.

Taking me to a multi-level marketing seminar. (actually happened).

– JackTheJackerJacket

6. Take care, now.

Smelly, greasy hair, and no effort in appearance.

If the first date isn’t important enough for you to even shower, then how important will the relationship be to you

– brittacurls

7. Just in case.

Starting the date by saying that you’ve cleared your entire weekend, just in case this date works out and I’m free.

No pressure.


8. Hands off!

Too handsy right out the gate.

You’re still basically a stranger, I need to get to know you first.

– tomorrowistomato

9. Aloof.

Constantly being on your cellphone.

Seriously, man.

That’s so uncool.

– Ornery_Shirt_2658

10. Little nervous, huh?

Showing up absolutely hammered and passing out within an hour.

– elevenminutesago

11. Bring it back.

Keeping talking about herself and the same subject… All evening.

Went on a blind date once and this girl kept talking about a single trip she made 5 months prior and her d*mn bunny. It’s all cute and stuff but when I tried to say something about my pets or travel experience it would always go back to her. Also when I tried to steer the conversation away from anything but those two subjects she’d return after 4 minutes somehow.

Big turnoff.

– Amyrantha_verc

12. Notch on your bedpost.

On my first date with a guy he proceeded to tell me he’d had sex with 16 women and I could be lucky number 17, and then told me he generously rated me a 6/10. Solid move dude, solid move.

Edit: omg I just remembered he also told me literally while we were still hanging out that he just f*cked some other girl earlier that day…like wow is that supposed to be a good thing? –


13. A glass act.

I went on a date once with a guy who seemed lovely. Funny, interesting and charming.

We had dinner and ordered a bottle of wine. About 45mins in I went to pour my second small glass of the evening. He picked up my glass, downed it in one and said ‘one glass is enough for a woman. I need you sober for what I’m going to do to you later’.

There was not a second date.

– floradane

14. Just gross.

Rudeness to anyone.

They’re supposed to be on their best behavior at this time, so it’s a major red flag if they’re not trying to be.

– AlreadyGone77

15. Big mistake.

Introducing me to your boyfriend.

– YetAnotherWTFMoment

That’s a dealbreaker, ladies!

What other first date deal breakers can you think of?

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