Today we’re going to listen to beautiful people complain about how insecure that makes them feel.
Now hold on, I can already hear you gathering your pitchforks, but let’s stop for a second and remember that we uggos don’t have a monopoly on feeling bad about ourselves. It happens to everybody and it’s not fair to any of us, as Reddit clearly illustrates
People who’re considered physically attractive, what are some of the things that you feel insecure about? from AskReddit
Time for a little real talk.
1. Being introverted
I was considered quite attractive in my 20s and never had much trouble meeting guys. But I had real trouble keeping boyfriends.
I was told more than once that I was boring.
I’m quiet and a huge introvert and am perfectly happy spending a day reading or watching movies.
But I guess that wasn’t fun for the men I liked. So as a result I was, and still am quite insecure about my personality.
2. Accompanying assumptions
I have a feeling people automatically assume I am this insanely extroverted, confident and resourceful person.
Then I get anxious feeling that I am disappointing when I am not what they expected me to be.
So I guess the answer is I am insecure about my personality etc living up to the initial projections people place on me, giving me kind of a performance anxiety.
People will often say “you’re attractive for an Asian guy”.
It often gives me the impression that I’m just decent enough for them to acknowledge me yet not attractive enough for them to date.
Yeah, people tell me I’m attractive, but I have no game and am completely hopeless with the opposite s** unless they make the first move and don’t immediately get bored with me.
I’ve had a girl in highschool say I look much more attractive without my glasses.
It hurt a lot considering I need these to function in the world.
I can’t wear contacts because my eyes are sensitive to everything and I can’t get corrective surgery because they aren’t strong enough to handle the procedure.
6. I don’t believe them
My looks, as I always assume people are joking Got made fun of a lot as a kid until I was about 16/17 or smth, but that’s probably where that disbelief comes from
Looks don’t work getting into a happy relationship tho
And I’m insecure about my small talk abilities 😀
7. Most things
My facial expressions.
My interactions with other people.
The way I talk.
The way I walk.
The way I sit.
What my hair does in the wind.
I’m a mess. Just go.
8. Do they really like me?
That My partner is with me more because of looks than personality, that someone more competent than me was overlooked for My job just due to me having “the look”, basically that People go more for looks than My personality overall.
It’s a weird feeling that i just cant shake, and i hate it.
About my thighs, upper arms but mainly my personality.
I’m afraid to come off as too needy, or too ‘much’ in general, because I can be very enthusiastic when in love.
Maybe I hyperfocus on the person I’m love with (I have ADHD), if that’s even possible.
Either way, I don’t want to scare them, so I try to play it cool and give them plenty of space.
i grew up ugly and became “good looking” as an adult. i think transitioning from wanting to get with women to suddenly being able to get with lots of women made me more superficial and shallow.
i fear that i’ll never really love someone properly.
or that someone will fall in love with me and as we age together, realise it was perhaps just my looks and not who i am as a person.
As a 25 year old, female former model: aging.
I HATE the fact that I’m getting more and more insecure about my age.
Also my lack of butt and boobs, because now that I’m not a “fashion model” the new standard of beauty is someone thick.
12. The fade
Since I was Itty bity, people around me have praised me for my beauty (I grew up in the south and was put in those creepy child beauty pageants) . As I grew older, more started complimenting my figure and youthfulness.
I’m approaching my mid thirties and while I still feel pretty, I can see how things are starting to change on my body and can see how my looks will naturally fade as I get older.
Furthermore, I’m kind of odd and often cannot relate to others in conversation about subjects I value. But since so much of my self worth has been framed through my looks, I’ve been accepted by others despite my odd personality in many instances.
So I fear that as I age and lose my physical appeal, I will become lonely as those around me no longer feel motivated to accept my mind.
Being in public.
I’ve been groped, cat called, wolf whistled, followed, harassed, assaulted, r**ed.
I’m insecure about the attention I get because of my looks and size.
I am always on high alert outside of my house, scanning rooms and listening to all things behind me
14. Actual nudity
People have said that I’m attractive but I have a long list of things I would change physically.
I look fine with clothes on but naked I look the worst.
I hit a fast growth spurt and have tons of small stretch marks on random body parts.
Oh, and I have rosacea flares. That sucks.
I’m also asexual so when people hear I get how much of a waste it is and how guys want to be the one to “fix” me.
15. Cultural beauty standards
I feel like I shouldn’t answer this but I guess according to Indian beauty standards some people may consider me attractive. I have large eyes and thick eyebrows, I’m slim, have a decent nose, long hair, and I’m not dark. Yeah Indian colorism sucks.
It’s just that I know this objectively, but I really don’t see it myself. I have so many acne scars (working on fading them) but I put makeup on them. Then, if at any point someone asks me “are you trying to lose weight” the answer is always yes. I wish my thighs and arms were smaller. My stomach is flat objectively but gets bloated a lot.
I feel like I have a stupid face. Idk how else to describe it but it just looks…dumb. I constantly wish to have a different face shape.
And lastly. I wish I were taller. I’m only 5’4”.
At the end of the day, we’re all just humans.
What’s something you feel insecure about?
Tell us in the comments.