There’s a lot of confusion about polyamory out there, so for starters, let’s just grab a basic definition from those smarties at Oxford:
“the practice of engaging in multiple romantic (and typically sexual) relationships, with the consent of all the people involved.”
You’ll probably notice that that describes a sort of general principle rather than one specific relationship or arrangement, so it’s no surprise that what a polyamorous relationship means is going to vary a lot from person to person.
Let’s look at one very specific slice of that pie: people who are engaged to be married to one person, and are still involved / hoping to get involved with other people. These anonymous contributions reveal the story.
10. “People are upset”
It’s your life, you can do with it what you want.
9. “A poly relationship is amazing”
It’s the best of both worlds?
8. “Can’t match my drive”
Just make sure you stay on the road.
7. “Literally impossible”
Nothing’s impossible if you put your mind to it.
6. “I’m still iffy about it”
It’s definitely an unusual situation.
5. “Trying to decide if it’s for me”
Does it feel like a knot you’re trying to untangle?
4. “I don’t know…”
What are you afraid they might say?
3. “I’ve been told…”
Well, you sure showed them.
2. “Due on the same day”
What a fascinating birthday party it will be.
1. “It’s all about honesty”
Yeah, I suppose it would have to be.
Whatever makes you happy!
Do you have experience with this sort of thing?
Tell us about it in the comments.