There’s a lot of confusion about polyamory out there, so for starters, let’s just grab a basic definition from those smarties at Oxford:
“the practice of engaging in multiple romantic (and typically sexual) relationships, with the consent of all the people involved.”
You’ll probably notice that that describes a sort of general principle rather than one specific relationship or arrangement, so it’s no surprise that what a polyamorous relationship means is going to vary a lot from person to person.
Let’s look at one very specific slice of that pie: people who are engaged to be married to one person, and are still involved / hoping to get involved with other people. These anonymous contributions reveal the story.
10. “People are upset”
It’s your life, you can do with it what you want.
![](https://humansoftumblr.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/engaged-11.jpg)
Source: Whisper
9. “A poly relationship is amazing”
It’s the best of both worlds?
![](https://humansoftumblr.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/engaged-12.jpg)
Source: Whisper
8. “Can’t match my drive”
Just make sure you stay on the road.
![](https://humansoftumblr.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/engaged-13.jpg)
Source: Whisper
7. “Literally impossible”
Nothing’s impossible if you put your mind to it.
![](https://humansoftumblr.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/engaged-14.jpg)
Source: Whisper
6. “I’m still iffy about it”
It’s definitely an unusual situation.
![](https://humansoftumblr.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/engaged-15.jpg)
Source: Whisper
5. “Trying to decide if it’s for me”
Does it feel like a knot you’re trying to untangle?
![](https://humansoftumblr.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/engaged-16.jpg)
Source: Whisper
4. “I don’t know…”
What are you afraid they might say?
![](https://humansoftumblr.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/engaged-17.jpg)
Source: Whisper
3. “I’ve been told…”
Well, you sure showed them.
![](https://humansoftumblr.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/engaged-18.jpg)
Source: Whisper
2. “Due on the same day”
What a fascinating birthday party it will be.
![](https://humansoftumblr.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/engaged-19.jpg)
Source: Whisper
1. “It’s all about honesty”
Yeah, I suppose it would have to be.
![](https://humansoftumblr.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/engaged-20.jpg)
Source: Whisper
Whatever makes you happy!
Do you have experience with this sort of thing?
Tell us about it in the comments.