I’m single, as of recently, and I’m not quite ready to mingle.
Because mingling is exhausting, and I’m not really allowed to go anywhere right now, and also…the kinds of reasons spelled out in the post on Ask Reddit:
“What is a reason you are glad to be single?”
Here’s what a few single Redditors had to say about it.
1. A day to day basis.
On a day to day basis, I struggle less with feelings of guilt.
There are things one misses out on by not being in a relationship, but not beating yourself up over a snappish reply or a thoughtless gesture towards someone you care about are not among them.
2. Don’t get ruined.
A lot of people I know who’ve ruined their lives did so over a lover.
Whether trying to get one, keep them, or fighting someone else over them, relationships can be very dangerous if you’re too emotionally immature.
3. My own stressors.
The only things stressing me are my own stressors.
I don’t have to help support someone else through theirs.
4. Bed hog.
I can sleep in the middle of the bed with the fan on if I want.
I can also leave something on the table and come back two weeks later and it is still there.
5. A bad hang.
No longer being forced to hangout with their friends.
6. Off the hook.
I’m not a huge fan of the single life but in the past when I’ve been in a relationship, I always felt like I needed to check my phone 24/7.
I like being able to just chill and play video games, watch a movie, hang with friends without checking my phone consistently.
7. My own lens.
I’m learning to navigate the world through the lens of my own needs and desires without worrying how I’m being perceived by a partner.
I do not believe I will be a good person to be in a relationship until I can do that- so I’m happy to struggle with it.
Also I really love dancing poorly to LCD sound system while my dog watches with fear and judgement in his eyes.
Not that I couldn’t do that before… it’s just so free to do it in my own apartment alone.
– [User Deleted]
8. You best appreciate.
Because I’d rather be single than be with someone who doesn’t appreciate my love and affection.
9. The other side.
I never want to turn the key in the door and have to worry about what is going to on the other side again.
I don’t want to have to manage another’s emotions or walk on eggshells. I love the peace that my space is mine alone. I also hate the obligations that tend to come with relationships.
I don’t want to attend other people’s events, or buy presents for inlaws etc.
Basically, I’m selfish:)
10. Leave it to science.
Studies show that people who are married are on average slightly happier than people who are not married. Which has been known for a long time, so people have sort of internalized this idea that marriage equals happiness. But when you break down the numbers in that, what it actually looks like is that people in happy marriages are much happier than everyone else and people in unhappy marriages are much less happy than everyone else. So actually the “slightly happier” figure is pretty meaningless and just shows that slightly more marriages are happier than unhappy—and that’s what that looks like when averaged.
So (for those who want it) being in a good relationship is the best situation. But being single is the second best, and far better than being in a bad relationship. Also being single is a better position to be in if you’re looking for a good relationship, because being in a bad one means you have to go through the extra steps of breakup and recovery. Plus when you’re single you’re able to work on all those things about yourself that make your ready for a good relationship.
So to me it’s like not the very best, but it is the second best and that’s pretty good. It’s like you don’t have a Jaguar but you have a Honda, and it’s reliable and gets you were you need to go. And at least you’re not driving car from the 70’s with a leak in the fuel-line and a plastic Jaguar-sculpture taped on the hood.
11. Focus up.
Honestly, being single allowed me to put more focus on finishing my undergrad degree, which I just did this last week!
12. A real introvert.
How much I don’t like being around people
13. The worry returns.
Sometimes, I worry about being single. Then, I remember my parents, and how they’ve been at each other’s throats for all my life.
Dying alone then seems like a blessing. Not screaming at my partner all the time…no kids to traumatize with all the aforementioned screaming…bliss.
14. Quite a list.
I can do whatever I want whenever I want.
If I want to stay up late, I can. If I want to go to sleep early, I can. If I want to sleep in, I can. If I want to wake up late, I can.
If I want to buy that xbox, PS, Nintendo, or upgrade my PC, I can. If I want to play video games, I can. If I want to watch a movie, I can. If I feel like watching tv, I can. If I feel like listening to music, I can.
If I feel like reorganizing or redecorating my apartment, I can.
If I want to go out to eat, I can. If I feel like cooking something at home, I can.
I can choose how I use my time. I can choose how I spend my money. I can choose how I save my money.
Do I feel lonely? I’ll admit it, sometimes I do. But I have good friends. If I feel like hanging out with my friends, if someone wants to hang out with me, I can. If I don’t feel like going out, I can stay home.
Despite the woeful lack of s*x, being single means I get to spend my money on my own sh*t.
Cheer up, single folks. It’s not all bad.
Are you single? How do you feel about it?
Tell us in the comments.