There are few things in this life better than having a truly good friend at your side.
But how can you tell when it’s the real thing? Maybe Reddit can help.
Here are some sure-fire signs to look out for.
1. Text first
They text you first when they don’t want anything.
My friend once told me ” I Won’t let anyone hurt you man, even yourself” while helping me get off drugs.
That always rang out as a true friend thing to say to someone.
3. No judgement
When they don’t judge you for things you can’t control. In high school, I had a sleepover, we all slept in the same bed, like normal.
I’d recently started some new medication. Turns out, a side effect was bedwetting.
They never told anyone. They never judged me. They helped me change the sheets. I’m still friends with those girls.
4. Nothing and everything
When you can talk about nothing and talk about deep things.
Lots of friends only have one or the other.
When you don’t have to talk 24/7 to know that you’re there for each other no matter what.
And when you do see/talk to each other again, it’s like no time has passed at all – you just have more stories to tell.
6. Hang time
“wanna hang out” then you don’t hang out and neither of you mind and then you hang out next week
7. The reverse
They’ll make fun of you to your face and defend you behind your back.
8. The night life
When its 3am, you KNOW its 3am, NEITHER OF YOU ARE HIGH, and yet you’ve both been chortling at something that was said at 10:30…
9. Always welcome
When they can walk into your house unannounced and be welcomed in like a blood brother who’s come back after being away for the weekend
10. Pick me up
You’ve both picked each other up or dropped each other at the airport at some ungodly hour and still enjoyed the drive.
11. Silence is golden
Not needing to talk all the time or hang out regularly to justify having a solid friendship.
12. It’s all convenient
They don’t mind being “inconvenienced” by you (in other words they don’t mind helping you/ being there for you)
13. Feeling seen
When you can recognize someone’s mood without them telling you that they are upset.
14. Just to vent
I think the best thing I’ve heard from one of the few friends I’ve had is when I was having a real sh*t day and they asked if I wanted advice, just to vent, or needed a distraction.
The intention that day had been to help paint some walls in her house. She was perfectly fine with me hanging out and chatting, curled up in a blanket on the couch, while she painted her own walls and then we ordered takeout.
The sh*t was bad, but the day wound up pretty good.
One of my friends understands pretty much exactly what me going “hmm” at different lengths and pitches means.
If you’ve got yourself a friend that fits any of those descriptions, hang on to ’em.
What else would you add to this list?
Tell us in the comments.